If the person against whom you are competing at work is your partner, you probably think that this fight will be different. However, it could end the relationship. But do not be discouraged; This does not necessarily have to happen and working together also offers some advantages.
It is known that the workplace is surrounded by competition and fierce rivalry, but we must consider that ambition is not all bad, if it reveals a desire to improve and achieve the goals we have set for ourselves. However, if we lose the limits our behavior can become destructive; we become obsessive, we suffer serious damage to our emotional state and we become enmity with our companions, since it is common for us to do everything possible to overshadow them.
Have you ever thought about what will happen if the person you compete with is your partner?
Maybe you think that things would be different, because it is the girl you love and with whom you share intimacy of things. However, incredible as it may seem, this represents a problem that can lead to the breakdown of your relationship. Keep reading and find out why.
Is it good to work in the same company?
When the couple works together and have the same position, coexistence is healthy if labor issues are not involved with their relationship. But otherwise, it is likely that all that peace will become an earthly hell. This is because there is a malign entity called the phantom of competition, which can do theirs tragically.
Let’s take the example of Dayana and Gonzalo, both accountants. This couple had three years of relationship and worked in a major company located south of Mexico City. A day came when the post of deputy general manager was vacated, and both had the possibility of obtaining it thanks to their good performance. What happened? They started a fierce struggle to ascend and exposed their abilities to the maximum, but there came a time when they put aside the love they had and set themselves the sole objective of proving that one was better than the other. Finally, Diana became Gonzalo’s boss, which of course he could not accept. Perhaps you are wondering why, and that education is taught to man to be superior, he is told that he is the head of the house, who deserves the best; for that reason, when she sees that her partner obtains a better job, her response is one of rejection, since she thinks that from then on she will be in charge, and that goes against what they instilled in her since childhood.
Why does she earn more than me?
The man may also dislike the fact that his own partner is better paid than him, whether they work in the same company, which is because it has the traditional model that establishes that the male oversees maintaining the house. and, therefore, to make important decisions.
This can give rise to another rivalry, as it happened to Tania and Roberto, because she had a better salary and for sure he thought that she would dominate his life and the way things should be done in the house. The man believes that when the couple is better paid they will want to wear their pants.
It should be noted that this type of differentiation begins at an early age, because the pathetic distinction between blue and pink is always made, it is wrongly decided who can cry and who does not, it is determined that children play with cars while girls play with dolls, as well as the role of the head of the family and the housewife. For these reasons, there has been a false idea that women are not capable of complying with labor obligations or contributing economic resources. Then, when the opposite happens, the established schemes are contradictory, and, in some way, the supposed order is lost.
However, things are not always like that and as an example is the case of Carolina and Edgar; even though she earned more money than him, they have not had any problem in this respect, since their relationship is not based on questions of power. As it can be detailed, the important thing is that in the couple there is integration, communication and stability in the economic resources, no matter which of the two is the provider.
Also, sometimes it happens that the woman makes the mistake of saying «the money that I earn is only for me; you have the obligation to pay all household expenses. » Consequently, to this affirmation, another conflict is created in the couple because the counterpart protests arguing that it is not fair that both work and do not share the expenses equally.
Have any of these cases happened to you?
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